This week we had a wonderful time at theChurch.at with our special guests, the Robertsons. And more than that, we got to take a deep look into the heart of God. We’ve always said around here that God is not about religion, he’s about a relationship. In the first chapter of James, he explains the one way that religion can actually work. He says that true religion is to take care of widows and orphans. Well, guess what – that’s a relationship!
Adoption is relationship, right? But I’m sure that many of you have lots of questions about it. Our response on Sunday was overwhelming! So positive and so encouraging. But I want to take some time to address some of your questions.
What is adoption? I don’t mean, what’s the definition of the word, or what does it involve, or how do you go about adopting or fostering a child? All of those are things that we answer in our Adopt(ed) small groups. All of those are things that we love to help people walk through.
What I’m talking about is much deeper. When you get to the heart of God, down deep to the very nature of who he is and how he sees us, what does it mean to be adopted?
Let me give you 4 things that adoption is:
1. Adoption is God’s Plan A
God planned adoption long, long ago. He had it on his mind before the creation of the world even! Take a look:
4 Long ago, even before he made the world, God loved us and chose us in Christ to be holy and without fault in his eyes. 5 His unchanging plan has always been to adopt us into his own family by bringing us to himself through Jesus Christ. And this gave him great pleasure. 6 So we praise God for the wonderful kindness he has poured out on us because we belong to his dearly loved Son.
Adoption was never Plan B for God. And it doesn’t have to be for you either. Maybe you’re thinking about adopting because the traditional ways haven’t worked out. Can I just tell you that over and over again I’ve seen families choose adoption as Plan A, and then add a child through natural birth later. Amazing what God can do!
2. Adoption is a choice
A family’s choice to adopt children may be sequentially second. But it does not have to be secondary. You make the commitment, taking the time, energy, and yes even money, to make it happen. But the same goes for a natural birth as well. Adoption is of first priority in God’s eyes.
It can be as precious and significant as having children by birth. God is able to make adoption an A+ plan in our lives. Adoption was not second best. It was planned from the beginning with God, remember? In our world, there is something uniquely precious about having children by birth. That is a good plan. But it’s not any better than the choice you make to adopt.
3. Adoption is family-centered
Although adoption is a choice, it’s really about a family. Whether you have one, two, ten, or twenty kids, you’re a family. Whether you have a blended family, an adopted family, a nuclear family, or some other mixture of family – it’s all a family. And that’s so important to remember.
When you adopt a child, you are not removing her from one place to another. The whole process of adoption is often called “placement.” Maybe we need some new words to better describe it. You’re not rescuing anyone. You’re not saving them from their life. You’re adding them to your life! And you’re adding yourself to theirs. That’s what family is all about. Don’t miss that big picture.
4. Adoption is life-changing
There is something uniquely different about adopting. Ask any parent of an adopted child and they can tell you. It’s life-changing, not just for the kids involved, but more importantly for the parents.
You may go through some rough moments. You may have some who question your choice to adopt. You may have to face questions like, “Are you not able to have kids of your own?” If you choose to adopt a child of another race, you may have to suffer even worse questions!
But the choice you make to adopt will have profoundly positive consequences for you and your family for years and years to come. You are at the center of God’s will and you’re pursuing God’s heart for his children. How great is that!
Adoption in God’s mind was not Plan B. He predestined us for adoption even before the creation of the world. Plan A was always about creating a wonderful world that would suffer a tragic fall. But it also included Jesus’ sacrifice that would win for us mercy and grace and glory. We could never know that with adoption.